How to convince someone to listen to your favourite song/artist (Music Mondays)

[[File:Listening to is Yes' self-titled debut album from 1969.jpg|Listening to is Yes' self-titled debut album from 1969]]

[File:Listening to is Yes’ self-titled debut album from 1969.jpg|Listening to is Yes’ self-titled debut album from 1969]

Have you ever found a song that was so good you thought everyone in the world should listen to it and love it? Have you ever given a song to a friend saying “You HAVE to listen to this, it’s AMAZING” only for them to brush it aside and not even click on the goddamn YouTube link?

I like to think this is the one thing I have in common with, say, Mormon missionaries. You love something. And you genuinely think other people will love it too and it would make their lives better. So you push it on them to like the thing you like.

But people never seem to buy it. It’s very difficult to convince someone to listen to a song you like, much less get them to like it. It’s frustrating, because to you, the song is awesome and you want to spread its awesomeness. You genuinely think its awesomeness could benefit other human beings. And it’s not like you’re delusional. Your song has thousands of other fans from across the internet-universe, all singing its praises.

So why doesn’t your friend love it? And how can you convince them to love it?

Sharing music with your buddies. [ photo essay 090316-A-5049R-018.jpg| photo essay 090316-A-5049R-018]

Sharing music with your buddies. [ photo essay 090316-A-5049R-018.jpg| photo essay 090316-A-5049R-018]

Sadly, you really can’t.

If you think about it, what drew you to the song in the first place? Personally, most of the songs I like I didn’t get from other people. I find songs from background tracks to videos or movies, or from the biography an artist I highly respect. But usually not from a friend’s YouTube link. Sometimes I like a song simply because I’ve heard it so many times I just surrender to it. “Alright already, I’ll enjoy this damn song.”

And when other people try to get me to like a song…well, usually I don’t really like it. For some reason. There’s something about discovering a piece of music by yourself that adds so much to the song. It’s as if music discovery is an integral part of music. It’s also a very private, independent thing that has be done naturally – kind of like emotional puberty. And you can’t force someone into emotional puberty. Some people will develop – say, crushes – earlier, while other people don’t get their first crush until much later. It’s all circadian rhythm. Nature-takes-its-course-like.

Music is like that. Because music is so personal. The same piece of music can speak to us differently. Bob might like a certain song because the lyrics really speak to him. I might like the exact same song as much as Bob, but it’s the guitar solo that gets my heart pounding.

So how do you get people to like the songs you like? You can’t. Not really, at least. Encourage people to discover, share music, put it in the background in the car, but don’t evangelize it. You can put music in people’s paths, but people have to choose for themselves whether they want to stop by or not.

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3 thoughts on “How to convince someone to listen to your favourite song/artist (Music Mondays)

  1. You can only convince them if you set the mood right too. Sending a link isn’t a great mood setter. Inviting them over and spreading chocolate bars all over the house and going on an impromptu easter egg hunt with the music playing in the background however…X)
    As for which part of the song you like, as long as they like the song for an enduring reason, then you might as well both like it for the same reason. no one likes the same books for the same reason anyhow and if you find someone that does like it, it almost doesn’t matter to you why they like it because it’s so special that you found someone that does, anyway.
    I can be convinced of music, but I guess not so much long TV series. 😉 I know I’m missing out. If it’s really life changingly great I should be bumping it to the top of my list. Weirdly enough, a friend recommended Adventure time and yes it was life changingly great yet at the same time I didn’t LIKE it. It changed my life while I watched it but it was hard to be a fan of it afterwards. Maybe there just wasn’t enough to relate to? But I knew that it was amazing.


    • What if you have to do a presentation in front of a classroom in which you actually can convince everyone to like your music? What would the title of your presentation be?


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